Obsessive thinking and anxiety is a real challenge for lots of people. And it's almost always a mystery as to why it's there to begin with.
There can be lots of different life experiences and reasons but the key to dealing with obsessiveness is understanding that our mind has separated the conflicted and bad feelings which originally occurred when we experienced some traumatic or some on-going stressful situation. We have the specific memories of whatever painful experience we've had and we easily feel those negative, stressful and anxious feelings because of that experience.
But we no longer connect the two. The feelings get separated from the memory of what actually happened. And this is due to a major triumph of our unconscious defenses over the anxious/conflicted feelings we have originally been faced with.
But those painful/anxious feelings don't just go away - they get pushed to the side but are still alive and well - they've just been isolated from the original situation which caused them. And because they're alive and well we have to repeatedly keep pushing them off into the corner so we don't feel them and we have to repeatedly keep pushing them down to keep them separated from the original cause of them - which probably happened years ago.
Thus, we repeatedly or obsessively protect ourselves from all of this negative energy - by worry and anxiety which gets focused on almost anything or anyone - as long as we don't think about or feel all of those bad emotions.
I hope this helps - stay strong,
Chandler
www.drcwelch.com
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