If you're dating these are some red flags to take seriously!
If you're married these red flags should be telling you that the two of you had better start doing some serious talking!
(or you'll end up being an emotional hostage in emotional hell)
- Controlling - I'll pout, be moody, withdraw, not tell you what's wrong
- I don't want your friends around
(usually driven by immature need for your full, constant attention)
- Isolating - I don't want your family around - usually communicated through critical comments over time and without seeing some positives about your family
(I'm blurring my own fears, insecurities or previous bad experiences from my own family)
- Unexpected anger - this isn't fun and creates constant pain and casualties
(unless you grew up with an angry parent and you're more ok with it than you should be)
- Giving ultimatums
(it's far more about me than what's working or not working for you)
- When the relationship is work and not fun
(everyone knows when they're not having fun)
- When you don't feel listened to or understood in important ways
(and you know or can sense this one as well)
Give it you best,
Chandler
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