The Usual Causes of a Drifting Relationship

Relationships tend to drift for a number of reasons:

• being so busy with work; children; career
• being unaware of emotional needs of self and more often of the other
• being aware but not paying attention; not doing the listening
• getting defensive when your partner expresses frustrations
• personal insecurities which get projected onto the other person
• being too high-maintenance
• anger
• unhealthy personal habits such as drinking; excessive shopping; not staying in shape
• "emotional intimacy" has a different meaning to your partner
• being self-centered

Ironically, the only item above which isn't always in our control is the first one. I'll be doing a separate blog on each of these. All the others are areas where we do have some choice - about our behavior and attitudes either in response to what's going on in the present - or because of how our feelings and thoughts and expectations have been influenced by past experiences.
Stay tuned . . .
Chandler Welch
www.drcwelch.com