If your relationship has changed over time - then welcome to the club. What gets talked about the most is usually the shift of sexual interest. But that usually happens because:
1) people don't maintain a sense of the erotic (this is a whole other subject) and
2) more importantly, they don't make the effort to pay attention to the others' feelings and emotional needs. Lots of folks just get too used to each other. So the feeling of closeness changes.
But some people find their relationship drifting because they've placed too much weight on the feelings which were first generated between them as a way of defining their own significance and worth to themselves over the years. For example, in the beginning the feeling of specialness and significance comes from the emotional and sexual interest of the partner. But because all relationships change - the ones that devolve are no longer able to provide that ongoing source of energy that, in the past, has served to define and sustain ones' sense of personal significance and value.
If love does flow from the creator of the cosmos, then getting to a place where:
1) you're able to feel your worth and specialness and
2) eventually able to really value yourself (and take yourself seriously) and
3) recognizing that the energy of love is capable of enabling you to be more aware of and attuned - that just maybe this energy can make a difference in how you view and feel toward yourself as well as your partner.
Because this energy is already a part of you - but you have to address what has till now inhibited and blocked your ability to access and draw on it in your feelings and attitudes toward yourself and maybe even toward your partner.
It's definitely something to think about.
Chandler Welch
drcwelch.com
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